Feng Shui Children Tips: How to Keep Your Children in Your Heart with a Metal Picture Frame

At different times in our lives, we may place our focus in different areas. Our main concern may be finding love, increasing our income and making more money, or building a strong, supportive family unit.

With all of today's demands on us, it's often hard to make time for our children. Parents work late and miss soccer games, and even when we're with our children, we're often not fully present, giving them our complete attention.

Wherever you place your focus, however, is where you'll achieve the most success in life. And to most parents, there's nothing more important than their children. You can use Feng Shui to help you make an intentional effort to build a stronger relationship with your children.

The Children and Creativity Ba Gua Trigram

When you stand at your home or apartment's front entrance and look in, the children and creativity trigram of the ba gua is located to your right side, in the center of the home. It's located between the Helpful People and Travel and the Romance and Marriage trigrams. This segment of the ba gua corresponds to the element of metal.

Activate the Chi in the Creativity and Children Section of the Ba Gua
To improve your relationship with your children and build a stronger family, hang photos of your children in metal picture frames in this trigram of the ba gua. Every time you see these photos, you will be reminded of your love for your children, and will shift your focus to spending more quality time with them.

You can double the effects of this Feng Shui principle by laying the ba gua over other rooms of your home and selecting family pictures for that area, as well. This works in any room but a bedroom, where you should avoid hanging photos of people unless they are of you and your partner or, if you're single, other happy couples.

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Feng Shui For Fertility: How Limiting Beliefs Impact Conception

A limiting belief is a belief from your past, often based on faulty information, that can block you from achieving your goals and living the best life you can.

I've seen limiting beliefs affect people in a number of ways. One woman in her early 40s was desperate to have a baby. When she was a teenager, her well-intentioned mother had warned her how much responsibility kids are, that it's a responsibility that can last from 18 years to your whole life. While her mother meant well, the woman took it too heart and adopted this limiting belief to the point it caused fertility problems.

Limiting beliefs often come from people who love us. They are doing their best to teach us or give advice that will keep us from getting hurt. But we then adopt these beliefs in situations where they no longer apply and they hold us back.

Replacing Limiting Beliefs with Empowering Thoughts

Once the woman identified the limiting belief that was holding her back from conception, she was able to recognize that, while her mother's words of wisdom applied to a young teenager, a grown woman had the capacity to handle the responsibility of raising children.

She shed those limiting beliefs and, at the same time, decided to find a new fertility specialist to provide a new perspective on her case of undiagnosed infertility. This is one of the ways the Universe provides the answers to questions once we open our minds to hearing them by abandoning the thought patterns that hold us back.

The woman also applied some of the Feng Shui tips I share in my eBook, Feng Shui Secrets, and, a few months later, got pregnant. She's due to have a little girl this summer.

What dreams have you let limiting beliefs stop you from achieving? Is it time to abandon these beliefs, realize they no longer apply (if they ever did) and finally live the life you've always wanted?
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Co-Sleeping: The Feng Shui of Co-sleeping with Children

A blog visitor posed a question about a Feng Shui mattress in the master bedroom that I'm sure many parents wonder about.

Wisma writes:  
I am currently sleeping on a mattress without a bed frame because occasionally my kids will sleep with us and they feel more comfy lying on the floor. After reading this post, I found that sleeping on the floor is not good; is it true? If so, I would need a new bed but will still keep the old mattress. Will it affect the good feng shui? As you said, a new mattress will give new energy. Thank you for your advice.

A Bed for Better Health

I would tell Wisma that investing in a bed, or at least a headboard and bed frame, would be good Feng Shui. The bed should be elevated above the floor to permit the chi to flow beneath it. A bed on the floor can affect health and fertility. The Chinese believe that “ling,” an embryonic form of chi, resides under the bed and enters the woman's body at the time of conception.

Even if Wisma is not trying to conceive, permitting the chi to flow under and around the bed will give everyone who shares the bed a better night's sleep.

A headboard will also promote a sense of stability in the home, but a footboard is not necessary.

Of course, if you're sharing a bed with children, the children's safety is the primary concern. Soft mesh bed rails, sold at baby supply stores, can keep the children safe in the bed while still offering good Feng Shui.

A New Mattress?

Unless the mattress is more than seven years old, is uncomfortable, or Wisma senses negative energy in the room from the mattress, it's not necessary to purchase a new mattress.

Feng Shui a Child's Bedroom

While it's perfectly natural for children to gravitate to their parent's bedroom and this is okay, Wisma may want to make some changes in the children's rooms that will promote a better night's sleep in their own beds.

Make sure the children's beds are in the command position of the room, and paint the bedroom in light, soothing colors to promote yin energy. A Himalayan salt lamp gives off a soft glow that helps children who may be afraid of the dark, but will not keep them awake with harsh light. 
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Baby Room Feng Shui to Welcome a New Baby

Are you getting ready to welcome a new addition into your family? If you're like many new moms and dads, you're placing a lot of focus on the nursery. A baby's nursery tends to be a tangible manifestation of a parent's love. We want to create a space of safety, comfort, and happiness for our new little one. Feng Shui can help.

I was recently called to consult for a client in a New York City suburb who was expecting her first child, after years of unsuccessfully trying to conceive. Of course, the parents wanted the best of everything for the child, and this included a nursery that would soothe, welcome, and stimulate their child, setting the stage for a life of success.

I showed them exactly where to place the furniture for the best lay out to encourage the flow of chi, and offered a few more recommendations, too.

Feng Shui Colors for the Nursery

I advised pastel colors and soft hues, rather than bright, primary shades. This would create a more soothing environment for sleep. The parents painted the room light pink and pastel green.

Avoid Too Much Energy or “Scary” Animals

Many baby products manufacturers and designers today decorate baby gear with jungle themes or other animals that could be perceived as “angry.” Even if a lion is smiling, it's still a lion. The connotations these animals have do not represent positive Feng Shui for a small, helpless baby. These large animals may cause anxiety for an infant or toddler. Bright green jungle themes or deep blue ocean themes also have too much active energy for a place where baby sleeps.

Upon my recommendation, the parents-to-be decorated the nursery with flowers and butterflies to create a happy, serene space.

Crib in Command Position to Empower Your Baby

We all want to feel empowered in our life -- and this begins at birth. To give baby a sense of security and empowerment, place the crib in the command position of the room. This is exactly what these Connecticut parents did, and they are looking forward to many sleep-filled nights when their new addition arrives.

The End Result

The expectant parents' thoughts? The room feels very cozy, warm, peaceful and looks beautiful, said the mother-to-be.

If you're expecting a baby, why not have a Feng Shui consultation to get your home or apartment in order before the baby's arrival? Creating a safe, nurturing environment through Feng Shui could be just as important as babyproofing in conventional ways to give your child a head start on a life filled with success.

Contact me here for more information about a Feng Shui consultation to welcome your baby.
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Feng Shui Colors to Activate Specific Areas Of Your Life

Color plays an important role in Feng Shui, but it can be challenging for some people to remember which colors correspond with which elements and, consequently, with the different trigrams of the Ba Gua.

Follow this handy guide when you're using Feng Shui colors to activate the chi in a specific trigram of the Ba Gua in your home or apartment. Remember, each element corresponds to multiple colors and shades, giving you a lot of flexibility to decorate your home in an aesthetically pleasing way.

Fire element: Red, orange, yellow, and muted or pastel shades of the same, including purple, pink and maroon

Earth element: Yellow, beige, sand tones (earthy colors)

Metal element: Gray, white, silver (and actual metallic tones)

Water element: Blue (in any shade), black, dark brown (almost black)

Wood:Green, Brown, and darker beige earth tones

Feng Shui Colors and the Ba Gua

Different trigrams of the Ba Gua also correspond to different elements and, therefore, different colors.

Fame & Recognition: Fire element
Children and creativity: Metal element
Career: Water element
Family: Wood
Center Palace/Health: Earth

Knowing this can help you activate the chi in a specific trigram of the ba gua using the right Feng Shui colors. Remember, you can employ colors in the five-elemental color cycle for even greater fortune.
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