Feng Shui Children Tips: How to Keep Your Children in Your Heart with a Metal Picture Frame

At different times in our lives, we may place our focus in different areas. Our main concern may be finding love, increasing our income and making more money, or building a strong, supportive family unit.

With all of today's demands on us, it's often hard to make time for our children. Parents work late and miss soccer games, and even when we're with our children, we're often not fully present, giving them our complete attention.

Wherever you place your focus, however, is where you'll achieve the most success in life. And to most parents, there's nothing more important than their children. You can use Feng Shui to help you make an intentional effort to build a stronger relationship with your children.

The Children and Creativity Ba Gua Trigram

When you stand at your home or apartment's front entrance and look in, the children and creativity trigram of the ba gua is located to your right side, in the center of the home. It's located between the Helpful People and Travel and the Romance and Marriage trigrams. This segment of the ba gua corresponds to the element of metal.

Activate the Chi in the Creativity and Children Section of the Ba Gua
To improve your relationship with your children and build a stronger family, hang photos of your children in metal picture frames in this trigram of the ba gua. Every time you see these photos, you will be reminded of your love for your children, and will shift your focus to spending more quality time with them.

You can double the effects of this Feng Shui principle by laying the ba gua over other rooms of your home and selecting family pictures for that area, as well. This works in any room but a bedroom, where you should avoid hanging photos of people unless they are of you and your partner or, if you're single, other happy couples.

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Feng Shui For Fertility: How Limiting Beliefs Impact Conception

A limiting belief is a belief from your past, often based on faulty information, that can block you from achieving your goals and living the best life you can.

I've seen limiting beliefs affect people in a number of ways. One woman in her early 40s was desperate to have a baby. When she was a teenager, her well-intentioned mother had warned her how much responsibility kids are, that it's a responsibility that can last from 18 years to your whole life. While her mother meant well, the woman took it too heart and adopted this limiting belief to the point it caused fertility problems.

Limiting beliefs often come from people who love us. They are doing their best to teach us or give advice that will keep us from getting hurt. But we then adopt these beliefs in situations where they no longer apply and they hold us back.

Replacing Limiting Beliefs with Empowering Thoughts

Once the woman identified the limiting belief that was holding her back from conception, she was able to recognize that, while her mother's words of wisdom applied to a young teenager, a grown woman had the capacity to handle the responsibility of raising children.

She shed those limiting beliefs and, at the same time, decided to find a new fertility specialist to provide a new perspective on her case of undiagnosed infertility. This is one of the ways the Universe provides the answers to questions once we open our minds to hearing them by abandoning the thought patterns that hold us back.

The woman also applied some of the Feng Shui tips I share in my eBook, Feng Shui Secrets, and, a few months later, got pregnant. She's due to have a little girl this summer.

What dreams have you let limiting beliefs stop you from achieving? Is it time to abandon these beliefs, realize they no longer apply (if they ever did) and finally live the life you've always wanted?
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Co-Sleeping: The Feng Shui of Co-sleeping with Children

A blog visitor posed a question about a Feng Shui mattress in the master bedroom that I'm sure many parents wonder about.

Wisma writes:  
I am currently sleeping on a mattress without a bed frame because occasionally my kids will sleep with us and they feel more comfy lying on the floor. After reading this post, I found that sleeping on the floor is not good; is it true? If so, I would need a new bed but will still keep the old mattress. Will it affect the good feng shui? As you said, a new mattress will give new energy. Thank you for your advice.

A Bed for Better Health

I would tell Wisma that investing in a bed, or at least a headboard and bed frame, would be good Feng Shui. The bed should be elevated above the floor to permit the chi to flow beneath it. A bed on the floor can affect health and fertility. The Chinese believe that “ling,” an embryonic form of chi, resides under the bed and enters the woman's body at the time of conception.

Even if Wisma is not trying to conceive, permitting the chi to flow under and around the bed will give everyone who shares the bed a better night's sleep.

A headboard will also promote a sense of stability in the home, but a footboard is not necessary.

Of course, if you're sharing a bed with children, the children's safety is the primary concern. Soft mesh bed rails, sold at baby supply stores, can keep the children safe in the bed while still offering good Feng Shui.

A New Mattress?

Unless the mattress is more than seven years old, is uncomfortable, or Wisma senses negative energy in the room from the mattress, it's not necessary to purchase a new mattress.

Feng Shui a Child's Bedroom

While it's perfectly natural for children to gravitate to their parent's bedroom and this is okay, Wisma may want to make some changes in the children's rooms that will promote a better night's sleep in their own beds.

Make sure the children's beds are in the command position of the room, and paint the bedroom in light, soothing colors to promote yin energy. A Himalayan salt lamp gives off a soft glow that helps children who may be afraid of the dark, but will not keep them awake with harsh light. 
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Baby Room Feng Shui to Welcome a New Baby

Are you getting ready to welcome a new addition into your family? If you're like many new moms and dads, you're placing a lot of focus on the nursery. A baby's nursery tends to be a tangible manifestation of a parent's love. We want to create a space of safety, comfort, and happiness for our new little one. Feng Shui can help.

I was recently called to consult for a client in a New York City suburb who was expecting her first child, after years of unsuccessfully trying to conceive. Of course, the parents wanted the best of everything for the child, and this included a nursery that would soothe, welcome, and stimulate their child, setting the stage for a life of success.

I showed them exactly where to place the furniture for the best lay out to encourage the flow of chi, and offered a few more recommendations, too.

Feng Shui Colors for the Nursery

I advised pastel colors and soft hues, rather than bright, primary shades. This would create a more soothing environment for sleep. The parents painted the room light pink and pastel green.

Avoid Too Much Energy or “Scary” Animals

Many baby products manufacturers and designers today decorate baby gear with jungle themes or other animals that could be perceived as “angry.” Even if a lion is smiling, it's still a lion. The connotations these animals have do not represent positive Feng Shui for a small, helpless baby. These large animals may cause anxiety for an infant or toddler. Bright green jungle themes or deep blue ocean themes also have too much active energy for a place where baby sleeps.

Upon my recommendation, the parents-to-be decorated the nursery with flowers and butterflies to create a happy, serene space.

Crib in Command Position to Empower Your Baby

We all want to feel empowered in our life -- and this begins at birth. To give baby a sense of security and empowerment, place the crib in the command position of the room. This is exactly what these Connecticut parents did, and they are looking forward to many sleep-filled nights when their new addition arrives.

The End Result

The expectant parents' thoughts? The room feels very cozy, warm, peaceful and looks beautiful, said the mother-to-be.

If you're expecting a baby, why not have a Feng Shui consultation to get your home or apartment in order before the baby's arrival? Creating a safe, nurturing environment through Feng Shui could be just as important as babyproofing in conventional ways to give your child a head start on a life filled with success.

Contact me here for more information about a Feng Shui consultation to welcome your baby.
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Feng Shui Colors to Activate Specific Areas Of Your Life

Color plays an important role in Feng Shui, but it can be challenging for some people to remember which colors correspond with which elements and, consequently, with the different trigrams of the Ba Gua.

Follow this handy guide when you're using Feng Shui colors to activate the chi in a specific trigram of the Ba Gua in your home or apartment. Remember, each element corresponds to multiple colors and shades, giving you a lot of flexibility to decorate your home in an aesthetically pleasing way.

Fire element: Red, orange, yellow, and muted or pastel shades of the same, including purple, pink and maroon

Earth element: Yellow, beige, sand tones (earthy colors)

Metal element: Gray, white, silver (and actual metallic tones)

Water element: Blue (in any shade), black, dark brown (almost black)

Wood:Green, Brown, and darker beige earth tones

Feng Shui Colors and the Ba Gua

Different trigrams of the Ba Gua also correspond to different elements and, therefore, different colors.

Fame & Recognition: Fire element
Children and creativity: Metal element
Career: Water element
Family: Wood
Center Palace/Health: Earth

Knowing this can help you activate the chi in a specific trigram of the ba gua using the right Feng Shui colors. Remember, you can employ colors in the five-elemental color cycle for even greater fortune.
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Feng Shui Tips for Education

Most college kids are home right now for a break between semesters. This may be a good time to look at the knowledge corner of your home, as represented in the Feng Shui Ba Gua , and look at ways you can get the chi flowing into this corner to create a more productive winter break, or to help you in your own studies and endeavors.

The knowledge trigram of the Feng Shui Ba Gua is in the front left corner of your home when you are facing your home, looking in. Your front door may be located in this trigram. If it is, follow these tips to Feng Shui your entryway for greater success and wisdom.

The element associated with the knowledge trigram is earth. For this reason, you can activate and raise the chi in this corner with items made of clay, and earthy colors such as beige, light brown, and yellow. (These bright, light colors also happen to work well for a Feng Shui entry way.)

You can use a number of other Feng Shui remedies to draw chi into this area of your home. Environmental anchors may include books on a bookshelf or a globe of the world. You can also use a potted plant, which represents the elements of both wood and earth.

If you place a bookshelf in this corner and can see it from your front entrance, be careful that it doesn't lead to your home's inhabitants becoming a little too studious. Gauge the effects of this Feng Shui remedy -- or get a bookshelf with doors that close so the books are not always in view but you will feel their effects on the chi in your home.

By surrounding your family with items that remind them of learning, you will cultivate an environment and attitude of knowledge and wisdom that children will take with them back to school and that they will carry through life.
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Feng Shui Your Child's Bedroom for Lifelong Success

We've talked in depth about how to Feng Shui the master bedroom for better health, better sleep or to find romance. But what about a child's room? Certain Feng Shui principles apply to children -- who tend to have scattered, very active chi -- that don't necessarily apply to adults.

Feng Shui Bedroom Colors for a Child
While restful colors such as light blues and greens are good in a child's or adult's bedroom for a restful night's sleep, you can also paint a child's bedroom in bright, primary colors to encourage learning. You can also use other brightly colored objects in a child's room to encourage learning.

Feng Shui Objects and Bedroom Mirrors
Ever wonder why infants often have mobiles over their cribs? Not only do mobiles keep babies entertained and soothed -- they are good Feng Shui! As a child gets older, consider moving the mobile, or hanging a whirligig or colorful windchime, so it hangs at eye level for the child.

This will draw the child's chi upward, giving them more motivation and also the concentration to be smarter. Do not hang mobiles over the crib of a baby who can sit up -- the baby can pull the mobile down or pull up on it to climb out of the crib.

Baby safe mirrors are also great in an infant or toddlers room, as are photos of loved ones, favorite characters or other babies.

Feng Shui Bedroom Furniture
Avoid large, heavy furniture. In addition to posing a safety hazard to young children and toddlers -- who can pull heavy dressers or tall bookshelves down on themselves -- they also oppress the child's chi.

Feng Shui Bed Position for Children
A child's bed or crib should still be in the command position. If possible, place the bed in the children trigram of the Ba Gua within the room -- providing you can place the bed here and it will still be in a command position.

Feng Shui for Teens
As a child gets older, it's okay to keep books in the bedroom, especially in the knowledge trigram of the Ba Gua, where they can encourage learning and enhance intelligence. The bed or desk can also reside in the knowledge trigram.

As a general rule, the older a child becomes -- all the way into the teen years and through college -- the room should become more like an adult bedroom, with more sedate, relaxing colors and stable objects around the room. Teens and tweens need stability and an emphasis on knowledge and study in their surroundings.
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Feng Shui Your Bedroom for Fertility

Are you part of a couple that's trying to get pregnant? Have you been trying to conceive for years with no success? Struggling with infertility, especially unexplained infertility, can be disheartening for women and their partners.

You can Feng Shui your bedroom and use a blend of strong intention and positive belief, to increase your chances of getting pregnant.

Follow these tips for a Feng Shui bedroom to increase your fertility.

1. Make sure there is nothing under your bed.
According to Feng Shui principles, Ling -- an embryonic form of life chi -- circulates beneath the bed. When a woman conceives, the ling enters her body to give life to the embryo growing inside. Objects under the bed -- even soft objects -- may block the ling and prevent conception. A captain's bed or bed without legs leaves no room for ling to form and circulate.

2. Use red sheets for passion in a Feng Shui bedroom. When a couple is trying to conceive, sex can become a chore. If finding the time and energy to get pregnant is inhibiting your efforts, add a touch of red to your Feng Shui bedroom -- perhaps in the form of red sheets or red roses on the nightstand -- to bring the passion back into your relationship.

3. Empower the children and creativity trigram of the Ba Gua in your Feng Shui bedroom. Based on Feng Shui principles, the element metal, along with the color white, corresponds with the children and creativity trigram of the Ba Gua. You can Feng Shui your bedroom for a successful conception by using a metal symbol in that area of your room -- perhaps a small metal statue of a child, or your own bronzed baby boots. You can also place white flowers in this space to introduce living chi that will encourage conception.

Also, pay attention to what you currently have in this area of your bedroom -- are you unknowingly sabotaging your attempts at procreation with objects that tell a different story about your goals and intentions? Piles of clutter in that corner, mementos that emphasize your status as a childless couple, or anything that may create stress could be blocking your attempts to conceive.

4. Minimize stress for a Feng Shui bedroom that encourages creation. A bedroom that is a sanctuary designed for rest and certain forms of recreation will help a couple relax and take the pressure off their attempts to conceive. Keep books, computers and exercise equipment out of a Feng Shui bedroom to create a peaceful sanctuary.
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Feng Shui Bed Placement In A Child’s Bedroom

Does your child have nightmares about monsters under the bed or in the closet? Does your young child have difficulty falling asleep? If you don't have proper Feng Shui bed placement in a child's bed room, this could be the cause.

Proper Feng Shui bed placement for a bed or crib is in the command position. This means your child can see the door from bed, but the bed will not be directly in line with the door. The bed should also not be pointing toward the door; this is considered the coffin position and can prevent a good night's sleep. You can refer to this article to see illustrations of proper Feng Shui bed placement.

Proper Feng Shui bed placement gives a child a sense of security and control. This is an important part of a child's development. If your child  is having trouble sleeping, make sure the bed is in the command position as the first step to a good night's sleep. If your child wakes during the night because of nightmares or refuses to go to sleep because there are monsters in the closet or under the bed, Feng Shui bed placement will help provide a feeling of safety and inner peace.

It's perfectly normal for an infant under a year old to wake up every few hours. A baby's crib should also be placed in the command position, but that won't keep a hungry baby from waking up. Proper Feng Shui bed placement can help older children sleep, while providing security for even the youngest baby.

Young children often feel as if they have no control over their own lives or decisions. For a toddler in the “terrible twos,” who is testing your boundaries, proper Feng Shui bed placement may alleviate tantrums as children will gain a sense of control not only when they sleep, but during waking hours, too.
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Feng Shui Your Child's Desk for Better Grades

Even as many schools face budget and program cuts, a good education is more important than ever. You may not be able to control the surroundings in your child's classroom, but you can Feng Shui your child's desk at home for better success at school.

The best place for a child to study and do homework is in a quiet area of the home. This may create a challenge when you create a Feng Shui desk, as you may want to keep any computers with Internet access in high-traffic, public areas so you can monitor your child's online activities. If you can find a quiet place in a location in a where you can see the computer but your child won't be distracted by the television or conversation, this is ideal.

Since the kitchen is a hub of activity, this is not a good place for a Feng Shui desk. Wherever you place a desk, it should be in the command position of the room.

The Feng Shui Command Position

The Feng Shui command position puts people “in charge” of a room -- and of their life -- by placing them where they can see the door, but not directly in line with the door. Sitting with your back to the door can make it difficult to concentrate, while sitting in line with the door can make a person feel under attack. Either position creates stress, which will affect a child's studies in a negative way. If the child is not able to view the door, consider adding a mirror so that they can see the door from the reflection.

Follow these additional tips for a Feng Shui desk for even greater results:

- A Feng Shui desk should be solid wood or metal, not glass.
- A Feng Shui desk should include a chair with a solid back and arms for a greater feeling of support and security.
- There should be nothing underneath a desk that takes away from foot space available.
- A Feng Shui desk should have no shelves or heavy objects hanging above it. This will create a feeling of stress and pressure on your child.
- For good Feng Shui, avoid beams or a sloped ceiling above a desk.

Is your child having trouble in school? Difficulty concentrating? Move the desk where your child does homework to the command position of the room and see if their grades begin to improve.
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