Feng Shui Love: Is Clutter Getting In The Way Of Your Sex Life?

Jennifer Parks, Edmonton Journal 

Is your love life a little lacklustre?

There's a definite link between your sex life and your dirty laundry, says a clutter-busting expert.

"An unclear mind and space aren't conducive to good, yummy, relaxed sex," says Janet Mayfield, a feng shui consultant and former Edmontonian.

Feng shui is the ancient Chinese system of rearranging your environment to bring balance into your life.

Take a mental inventory of their bedroom space. How do they feel in it? Is it full of good memories or bad? Have you had more arguments than sex in there? Does the room feel private? Is the bed comfortable? Does the bed have a history before your current partner?

"Opening the windows, washing the bedding and burning a candle or incense will start to make a difference," says Mayfield. "If it feels really awful, empty the room entirely, wash it from top to bottom, and as you put it back together, play some favourite music, laugh, clap, sing or shake bells. It will help to break up any old remaining chi -- energy."

Other tips: Take out pictures of the children and family. Fill it with happy pictures of you and your spouse. Clear up any sign of work. The colours pink, coral and peach are very conducive to romance, so use these colours if you like them.

If you've ever secretly worn red panties under your clothes just to feel sexy, then you can attest to the power of colour to affect your mood.

When it comes to cleaning house, Edmonton marriage counsellor Gary Meiers is no clutter-busting guru, but he says a good sweep under the proverbial carpets can do wonders for your sex life.

Over time, unskilled communication can lead to resentment and kill intimacy, he says.
ot buying into the whole "change your decor, change your life" philosophy?

Then consider this timeless aphorism from an ancient Indian text, The Upanishads:

    * Watch your thoughts; they become words.
    * Watch your words; they become actions.
    * Watch your actions; they become habits.
    * Watch your habits; they become your character.
    * Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

It doesn't take a feng shui leap to see that our inner and outer worlds are intrinsically connected. So, this spring, why not do an internal sweep? Take out the trash in your love life and transform your relationship. After all, no amount of clutter is worth a sexless destiny.

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