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Feng Shui Bedroom Colors For Couples

  
  
  
Feng Shui Consultant Ken Lauher
Have you ever wondered what are the best Feng Shui bedroom colors for a couple?

Bedroom colors can help you when you're single establish a long-term relationship but what should you look for once you're in the relationship and how should you design your bedroom to support your relationship, create an environment of communication, intimacy and great sex?

Feng Shui Relationship: 3 Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship

  
  
  
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The other day, I shared some signs that may indicate you've found true love with the man of your dreams. But what if you have deeper doubts? You know it's not true love (yet), but you think there may be a chance for your love to grow, given time.

Feng Shui Relationship: 5 Signs You've Found True Love

  
  
  
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Many women come to me to learn how to use Feng Shui to find a boyfriend or create true love in their lives. But what if you're already in a relationship and you're not sure if he's “the one?”

Cook Dinner At Home for a Romantic Valentine's Day

  
  
  
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Are you looking for a unique idea for a Valentine's Day date? Why not skip the crowded restaurant scene and have a nice, romantic dinner at home? Using your stove is good Feng Shui, as it gets the energy flowing in that area of your home and reflects your income opportunities, fame and reputation. So, if you want to be popular with the opposite sex, you really can win someone's heart with a home-cooked meal.

Make Food Prep Easy and Stress-Free

To set the stage for your romantic dinner, plan something easy. You don't want stress over food prep to ruin your mood before the night even begins. Whether it's lobster, stir fry or a pasta dish (make sure to keep it light so you're not too stuffed for after-dinner festivities), create a plan for cooking that will keep it simple.

Select Colorful Foods

Bright, colorful foods are healthy and look more appealing on the plate. Don't weigh things down in heavy sauces, and pick a variety of fresh vegetables of different colors for a meal that's as attractive as your date. Finish off with fresh strawberries dipped in dark chocolate for a sensual, sense-tingling dessert. Check out this article for more tips about Feng Shui foods.

Set the Right Feng Shui Mood from Start to Finish

Set the table with classy black and white linens with splashes of red for color (and passion). Consider placing red roses on the table, but keep them cut short so they don't obstruct your view of each other. You can dine by unscented candlelight for a truly romantic mood.

(By the way, on page 61 of my eBook I share another FABULOUS tip about how to Feng Shui For Love. This one tip corrects a deadly mistake almost EVERY woman makes with relationships - you’ll see what I mean…)

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Feng Shui Love Tips: How To Attract True Love and New Opportunities

  
  
  
Open Space to Attract True Love and Opportunities
It's one of the dangers of living in New York City, or anywhere that space is tight. People feel compelled to fill every empty spot with... something. Storage solutions. Furniture. Stuff.

Certainly, you can decorate in a way that makes the most of your space, including creating additional storage where it is needed and flexible seating arrangements to make guests to your home or apartment comfortable, too.

But true beauty and elegance is often found in the empty spaces of a home or apartment. If the energy in your home or apartment doesn't feel just right, it might not be that you need to add more furniture, carpeting, artwork, knick-knacks or even Feng Shui cures. Sometimes, you'll create elegance by taking things away instead of adding to the clutter and the energy around you.

Energy All Around Us

Every item we own or come into contact with has its own energy. When we add more “things” to our space, we are co-mingling that energy with our own. Before adding something to your space, make sure its energy will be a positive addition.

- Do you love it?
- Is it useful?
- Does it have a purpose (even if that purpose is just to bring you joy)?

Make Room for Your Own Energy

Just because there's an empty space -- perhaps a corner in your living room, or a blank wall in the kitchen -- it doesn't mean you have to fill it. The more open, empty space we have, the more chi can circulate through our home, carrying opportunities, good health, and happiness.We can permit our own energy to permeate our home, making it truly “ours,” a vehicle we can use on our journey to discover our true-self and begin to live the life of our dreams.











Find True Love by Breaking Old Patterns

  
  
  
Find True Love by Breaking Old Patterns
Are you holding yourself back from finding true love without even realizing it? Do you follow the same patterns, day after day, expecting different results? It was Albert Einstein who first pointed out that doing the same thing repeatedly while expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, but it's been repeated many times.

The expression applies to anything in life, whether you're talking about business, relationships or dating. But what about when you don't recognize the patterns, when you're so ingrained in your habits that you don't even realize you're doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome? Applying Feng Shui in our homes and apartments gives us an advantage when it comes to recognizing and changing the patterns that don't work in our lives.

Looking at Old Space and Old Habits with New Eyes

Do you know that feeling you get when you re-arrange your home, or add a new item, such as furniture, a throw rug or window treatments? Small and subtle changes -- sometimes as small as placing fresh flowers in a vase on your kitchen table -- can feel like a breath of fresh air. It can make our place feel like a whole new home.

When we shake up our surroundings in this way, it can help us break old patterns, but first we have to recognize those patterns. Taking a close look at the marraige and romance corner -- the back right corner of your home when you view it from the front door looking in -- may reveal some of your patterns or views on love and romance.

As you assess the space and your patterns, think about these questions:

- Do you wait for others to always take the initiative when it comes to romance?
- Do you come on too strong when you meet someone you like?
- Do you take time to listen to your date during that first conversation?
- Are you too quiet on first dates; do you listen as the other person reveals anything while failing to reveal anything about yourself?

Now Make a Shift

Whatever your pattern, consider doing the exact opposite next time you go out. If you don't usually approach attractive strangers, push out of your comfort zone and do it, wherever you might be. If you're more of a listener, try talking. If you dominate conversations, stand back and listen for a while.

Pushing out of your comfort zone will reveal important insight about yourself on your journey to find true love.

What step will you take today to change your love life? Why not take a chance and share with us how it worked out by posting below?


















Feng Shui Love Tips: Boost Your Confidence to Attract a Boyfriend

  
  
  
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Are you looking for ways to use Feng Shui to find true love? Feng Shui can be a powerful tool to help you find a boyfriend or girlfriend. Feng Shui, at its heart, is about aligning your outer world and surroundings -- your home, apartment, or office place -- with your inner goals. There are several ways this can help you find your soul mate.

Confident people are more attractive. Think about it: Who would you rather date? The shrinking wallflower who barely says a word at a dinner party, or the vibrant personality who bursts into a room and begins to make everyone smile? The second person exudes confidence, and this is tremendously attractive.

Follow these three tips to use Feng Shui to boost your confidence.

1. Hang mirrors high -- but not too high. A mirror hung near the door or in your entryway at the perfect height (so you can see your whole face and none of your image is “chopped off”) can make you feel great about yourself every morning.

2. Get out and exercise. The body is key to self-confidence. When you feel good about you and your body, that energy is reflected outward. You may walk a little taller, have a sparkle in your eye and have the energy and stamina to flirt with others. Take the time today to list one item you could do each week to improve your body so that you are feeling stronger, healthier and sexier.

3. Surround yourself with nice things. When you live in a home or apartment you're proud of and enjoy coming home to every day, you'll feel better. Make sure rooms are open and airy, leaving plenty of space for chi to flow. Surround yourself with objects that look nice and make you feel good; they don't have to cost a lot. Fresh cut flowers are a great way to remind yourself that you are worthy of nice things without spending a lot of money.

These proven Feng Shui tips can boost your confidence. When you're feeling more confident, you'll be in a better place to find a boyfriend or girlfriend.














Feng Shui Consultant's Relationship Advice: Is Your Bedroom Scaring Partners Away?

  
  
  
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There's a lot of relationship advice out there about how to find a guy or girl to date and love and even share your life with, but this simple tip could change your love life dramatically!

Many people consider their master bedroom their sanctuary, and, according to Feng Shui principles, it is one of the three most important areas of the home. But how is your master bedroom decorated?

Too Feminine to Find a Guy?

If your master bedroom is decorated all in pastels -- with no darker shades for contrast -- and frills and flowers, it may look too feminine. Even before the right guy enters your room, you may be hurting your chances to find a boyfriend with a mindset that you don't want to share your private space.

Too Masculine to Find a Girl?

If your master bedroom is decorated in a very sparse, masculine style (perhaps wolves or deer or another “woodsy” decor), and filled with “guy” things, again, you could be sending a subconscious message that you aren't actually ready to share your life. Sometimes, though, our space doesn't reflect our inner feelings; Feng Shui is useful to bring our surroundings into alignment with our thoughts. If you're ready for that softer touch, redecorate your space to reflect that.

Too Cluttered for Anyone?

The best master bedroom will be decorated in styles that are neither too feminine or too masculine. It should also be clean and uncluttered. Neglecting your master bedroom could symbolize neglecting your love life. Again, bringing your space into alignment with your desires will shift the energy around you, increasing your opportunities to find a guy or girl to spend your life with.

Feng Shui Love Tips: New Mattress for a New Romance

  
  
  
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According to Feng Shui principles, your bed affects many areas of your life: your health, your energy levels, and, of course, your love life. Yet too many people sleep on an old, uncomfortable mattress because they don't want to spend the money on a new one.

If you've recently broken off a long term relationship, it's important to replace your mattress with a new one. You'll be clearing out the old energy to make room to invite someone new into your life. In the meantime, you'll be strengthening your own energy on a bed that is uniquely -- and exclusively -- yours.

The Best Size Mattress

When you buy a mattress, size is important. A Queen size bed is best. A twin or a full bed doesn't leave room for a partner in the bed. Be careful, because leaning toward a full size bed could reflect your mindset of being single. In order to attract a soul mate, you want to begin thinking as if you've already found the love of your life.

You may have slept in a king size bed before your break-up. Unfortunately, a king size bed can sometimes contribute to break-ups. Because a king-size bed is made of two twin foundations, it can create a divide between a couple. Additionally, once you've gone to a king size bed, the only way to go is to downgrade ... in other words, a break-up and a move to a smaller bed.

Start New with a Feng Shui Mattress

If you are still sleeping in the king size mattress from an old relationship, replace it, along with your old mindset that may no longer work for you as someone looking for love.

A new mattress doesn't have to be expensive, as long as it's comfortable to you. Today's memory foam mattresses are very reasonably priced. Whatever you do, make sure the mattress is brand new -- don't pick one up from a yard sale or thrift store, because these mattresses will hold the energy of the previous owners.












Feng Shui Relationship Advice: The Love Stories Our Homes Tell

  
  
  
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I often talk about the stories our homes or apartments tell -- how our space can reveal insight about what's really important to us, how we are living right now, and what changes we may need to make to our mindset and our living space in order to begin to live our best life.

I consult for many clients whose homes or apartments reveal secrets about their love life. Here are three examples.

1. Too many shoes create a runaway bride. - One New York City woman was having challenges finding a man. When I provided a Feng Shui consultation for her New York City apartment, I noticed the romance trigram of her master bedroom was filled with dozens of boxes of shoes. There may have even been 100 pairs! After talking with her, I discovered that she often found something wrong with a potential partner after just one or two dates, and would quickly “walk away” from the relationship.

I recommended that she move the shoes to a different closet, and instead, place something that showed her desire to find a man in the romance trigram. She selected a few anchoring objects. A short time after, she did find a guy that she fell in love with and later married.

2. Clutter in the master bedroom cause married couple to neglect each other. - Life gets busy and it's often hard to keep up with housework. Since the master bedroom is reversed for you and your spouse and no one else sees it, it's often the last to get cleaned or decorated nicely. Clutter, books, piles of laundry and even mail can build up in this room.

If your master bedroom is neglected, your love life or your relationship may be, as well. Consider treating your bedroom -- and your marriage -- as the sanctuary that it should be by getting rid of the clutter and keeping the room tidy. You may notice a different in your quality of sleep and your interactions with your spouse.

3. Love letters and photos from old relationships could mean clinging to the past. - If your home, and specifically, your master bedroom, is filled with old photos of past relationships, love letters, stuffed animals that were gifts, and other mementos, you may not be leaving room to welcome a new love into your life. These items don't represent who you are today, and the past energy they're giving off could be preventing you from meeting the right person to share your life with.

Do any of these situations seem familiar to you? What stories is your home or apartment revealing about your thoughts on finding a soul mate? Can you make changes that may help you find a guy or girl?


















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