Are you holding yourself back from finding true love without even realizing it? Do you follow the same patterns, day after day, expecting different results? It was Albert Einstein who first pointed out that doing the same thing repeatedly while expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, but it's been repeated many times.
The expression applies to anything in life, whether you're talking about business, relationships or dating. But what about when you don't recognize the patterns, when you're so ingrained in your habits that you don't even realize you're doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome? Applying Feng Shui in our homes and apartments gives us an advantage when it comes to recognizing and changing the patterns that don't work in our lives.
Looking at Old Space and Old Habits with New Eyes
Do you know that feeling you get when you re-arrange your home, or add a new item, such as furniture, a throw rug or window treatments? Small and subtle changes -- sometimes as small as placing fresh flowers in a vase on your kitchen table -- can feel like a breath of fresh air. It can make our place feel like a whole new home.
When we shake up our surroundings in this way, it can help us break old patterns, but first we have to recognize those patterns. Taking a close look at the marraige and romance corner -- the back right corner of your home when you view it from the front door looking in -- may reveal some of your patterns or views on love and romance.
As you assess the space and your patterns, think about these questions:
- Do you wait for others to always take the initiative when it comes to romance?
- Do you come on too strong when you meet someone you like?
- Do you take time to listen to your date during that first conversation?
- Are you too quiet on first dates; do you listen as the other person reveals anything while failing to reveal anything about yourself?
Now Make a Shift
Whatever your pattern, consider doing the exact opposite next time you go out. If you don't usually approach attractive strangers, push out of your comfort zone and do it, wherever you might be. If you're more of a listener, try talking. If you dominate conversations, stand back and listen for a while.
Pushing out of your comfort zone will reveal important insight about yourself on your journey to find true love.
What step will you take today to change your love life? Why not take a chance and share with us how it worked out by posting below?