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Feng Shui For Love: How To Attract The Kind Of Men That Are Perfect For You

  
  
  
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Question: Are you satisfied with your relationship status or your love life? I really hope the answer is yes, but the sad reality is...

Nearly all of us at one time or another feel like we're not attracting the right kind of people into our life that we want to have a long term relationship with.

Feng Shui Relationship: 3 Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship

  
  
  
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The other day, I shared some signs that may indicate you've found true love with the man of your dreams. But what if you have deeper doubts? You know it's not true love (yet), but you think there may be a chance for your love to grow, given time.

Is Your Home Keeping You Single?

  
  
  
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Right now, as you're reading this (if you're at home) take a few moments to look around your house or apartment and consider if you would be comfortable sharing it with another person. Of course, our homes should reflect our personality and taste. But is your house so uniquely yours that it seems to say you don't have the space in your life for a significant other?

If you're interested in finding a soul mate, your home should reflect this. One red flag that your home could be keeping you from finding a boyfriend or girlfriend is if your space is too masculine or too feminine. If your home's chi has a strong sense of masculine or feminine energy, you may want to tone it down by introducing elements that represent the opposite gender.

The Ultimate Bachelor Pad?
Instance, if a leather couch and dark earth tones give your home a masculine energy, considering softening it with lighter colors and softer textures. You don't have to pack up that 50-inch flat screen and home theater set-up with the giant subwoofers. But consider a few gender neutral or even feminine elements in artwork, throw pillows or other items. In the master bedroom, reds and pinks can soften an otherwise masculine room and help encourage romance.  Fresh cut flowers or fresh fruit in the home can also add a feminine touch without being overtly “girly.”

Too Feminine?
If your home still contains your doll collection from your youth and is decorated in pinks and purples with stuffed animals all around, consider packing up some of these toys (especially if they were given to you by ex-boyfriends) and adding some elements to make the space more “grown up.” Consider adding candles in scents like cinnamon, sandalwood, licorice or cucumber, which are said to appeal to men in particular. You want your home to be a space where anyone can feel comfortable.

What items could you remove or replace to help make your home support your relationship goals and desires? Leave a comment below.

Feng Shui Love Tips: Boost Your Confidence to Attract a Boyfriend

  
  
  
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Are you looking for ways to use Feng Shui to find true love? Feng Shui can be a powerful tool to help you find a boyfriend or girlfriend. Feng Shui, at its heart, is about aligning your outer world and surroundings -- your home, apartment, or office place -- with your inner goals. There are several ways this can help you find your soul mate.

Confident people are more attractive. Think about it: Who would you rather date? The shrinking wallflower who barely says a word at a dinner party, or the vibrant personality who bursts into a room and begins to make everyone smile? The second person exudes confidence, and this is tremendously attractive.

Follow these three tips to use Feng Shui to boost your confidence.

1. Hang mirrors high -- but not too high. A mirror hung near the door or in your entryway at the perfect height (so you can see your whole face and none of your image is “chopped off”) can make you feel great about yourself every morning.

2. Get out and exercise. The body is key to self-confidence. When you feel good about you and your body, that energy is reflected outward. You may walk a little taller, have a sparkle in your eye and have the energy and stamina to flirt with others. Take the time today to list one item you could do each week to improve your body so that you are feeling stronger, healthier and sexier.

3. Surround yourself with nice things. When you live in a home or apartment you're proud of and enjoy coming home to every day, you'll feel better. Make sure rooms are open and airy, leaving plenty of space for chi to flow. Surround yourself with objects that look nice and make you feel good; they don't have to cost a lot. Fresh cut flowers are a great way to remind yourself that you are worthy of nice things without spending a lot of money.

These proven Feng Shui tips can boost your confidence. When you're feeling more confident, you'll be in a better place to find a boyfriend or girlfriend.














Feng Shui Love Tips: New Mattress for a New Romance

  
  
  
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According to Feng Shui principles, your bed affects many areas of your life: your health, your energy levels, and, of course, your love life. Yet too many people sleep on an old, uncomfortable mattress because they don't want to spend the money on a new one.

If you've recently broken off a long term relationship, it's important to replace your mattress with a new one. You'll be clearing out the old energy to make room to invite someone new into your life. In the meantime, you'll be strengthening your own energy on a bed that is uniquely -- and exclusively -- yours.

The Best Size Mattress

When you buy a mattress, size is important. A Queen size bed is best. A twin or a full bed doesn't leave room for a partner in the bed. Be careful, because leaning toward a full size bed could reflect your mindset of being single. In order to attract a soul mate, you want to begin thinking as if you've already found the love of your life.

You may have slept in a king size bed before your break-up. Unfortunately, a king size bed can sometimes contribute to break-ups. Because a king-size bed is made of two twin foundations, it can create a divide between a couple. Additionally, once you've gone to a king size bed, the only way to go is to downgrade ... in other words, a break-up and a move to a smaller bed.

Start New with a Feng Shui Mattress

If you are still sleeping in the king size mattress from an old relationship, replace it, along with your old mindset that may no longer work for you as someone looking for love.

A new mattress doesn't have to be expensive, as long as it's comfortable to you. Today's memory foam mattresses are very reasonably priced. Whatever you do, make sure the mattress is brand new -- don't pick one up from a yard sale or thrift store, because these mattresses will hold the energy of the previous owners.












Feng Shui Relationship Advice: The Love Stories Our Homes Tell

  
  
  
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I often talk about the stories our homes or apartments tell -- how our space can reveal insight about what's really important to us, how we are living right now, and what changes we may need to make to our mindset and our living space in order to begin to live our best life.

I consult for many clients whose homes or apartments reveal secrets about their love life. Here are three examples.

1. Too many shoes create a runaway bride. - One New York City woman was having challenges finding a man. When I provided a Feng Shui consultation for her New York City apartment, I noticed the romance trigram of her master bedroom was filled with dozens of boxes of shoes. There may have even been 100 pairs! After talking with her, I discovered that she often found something wrong with a potential partner after just one or two dates, and would quickly “walk away” from the relationship.

I recommended that she move the shoes to a different closet, and instead, place something that showed her desire to find a man in the romance trigram. She selected a few anchoring objects. A short time after, she did find a guy that she fell in love with and later married.

2. Clutter in the master bedroom cause married couple to neglect each other. - Life gets busy and it's often hard to keep up with housework. Since the master bedroom is reversed for you and your spouse and no one else sees it, it's often the last to get cleaned or decorated nicely. Clutter, books, piles of laundry and even mail can build up in this room.

If your master bedroom is neglected, your love life or your relationship may be, as well. Consider treating your bedroom -- and your marriage -- as the sanctuary that it should be by getting rid of the clutter and keeping the room tidy. You may notice a different in your quality of sleep and your interactions with your spouse.

3. Love letters and photos from old relationships could mean clinging to the past. - If your home, and specifically, your master bedroom, is filled with old photos of past relationships, love letters, stuffed animals that were gifts, and other mementos, you may not be leaving room to welcome a new love into your life. These items don't represent who you are today, and the past energy they're giving off could be preventing you from meeting the right person to share your life with.

Do any of these situations seem familiar to you? What stories is your home or apartment revealing about your thoughts on finding a soul mate? Can you make changes that may help you find a guy or girl?


















Feng Shui Relationship Guide: 3 Ways to Use Feng Shui to Set the Stage for a Romantic Dinner

  
  
  
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The holiday season is often a whirlwind of activity -- travel, family get-togethers, time with the kids. Many parents are preparing right now for the holiday season with shopping, decorating and constant cooking. But no matter what's going on in your life, it's important to carve out time for romance with your spouse or significant other.

Feng Shui for a Romantic Dinner

You can use Feng Shui to set the stage for a romantic dinner. If your goal is to find a spouse and you're planning a dinner date at home, you can also follow these romance tips.

1. Create the right mood in the room - Dim the lights, and perhaps light some red or white unscented candles to create the perfect atmosphere. If your dining room or eat-in-kitchen area is less than perfect, those imperfections (along with reminders of everyday life) will vanish in the shadows, putting the focus on you and your partner.

2. Position the seats so that your partner is in the command position of the room. Ideally, you can sit so that you both have a view of the door or entryway, but not be in direct line with it. Likewise, try to avoid placing your backs to a window.

3. Add flowers for life chi - With the lights dim, you may want to use another Feng Shui remedy in order to enliven the chi in the room. A few fresh cut flowers on the table can do it. Don't overpower the table with a large centerpiece -- a single rose in a bud vase is elegant and life-affirming.








How To Use Feng Shui to Find Romance Without Looking

  
  
  
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Are you tired of hearing people say, “You'll find romance once you stop looking for it”? Often, people seem to imply that, without your taking any action at all, the perfect partner will fall from the sky the second you shift your focus away from finding true love.

That's not the case, as you know, because the Universe sends us what we're focused on. We must set our intention and pursue our goals. But if we look at it another way, we can see the truth. When we “stop looking” for romance, it means we're taking action and then having faith that the Universe will provide what we want and need. Here's a more accurate way to phrase it: “You'll find romance when you take action without being tied to the outcome.”

Avoid Worry and Fear by Disengaging from the Outcome

When we tie ourselves, emotionally, to the outcome of any endeavor, we open the door to let worry and fear block us from what we want. Success begins, first, with belief in our success. We can't say, “I believe this first date will turn into true love,” but then think, in the back of our mind, “What if it doesn't?” These conflicting emotions will push possibilities away.

We can approach a date without being committed to the outcome. We can have faith that the outcome will be as we desire. Then, we're able to relax and have more fun. We'll find ourselves entering that zone where things come easily. We'll present our best self, and be more in tune to make a better connection with a potential partner.

Meditate and Visualize Your True Love

Before a first date, take time to meditate and visualize the evening going exactly as you'd like it to, right down to the ending kiss (or not!) and plans to see each other again. Then, leave your home with the belief and expectation that what you visualized will come to pass. Let it go and have faith that it will -- you don't have to struggle or work to make it happen.You've done your part. You've already taken action by setting the date, looking your best and leaving your home. Now it's time to put your faith in the Universe that it will go as it should.

Feng Shui To Find True Love: Is What You Say You Want in a Romantic Partner Really Want You Want?

  
  
  
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A recent article in the Financial Times talks about a new algorithm employed by Match.com that is designed to match users with more suitable mates based on their online activities at the dating site, rather than solely based on their profile responses.

The theory is that what people say they want and what they really want often doesn't match. You can use Feng Shui to determine if this is what you're doing to block true love from your life.

One way to do this is to make a list of all the traits you desire when you find a soul mate. Write down everything from physical appearance to personality traits to the job they hold. Then write down some of the characteristics of people you've dated recently.

Are you truly attracting what you want in a mate? Why didn't it work out with these people? Did you realize they didn't possess the traits you desire? Or perhaps these people are closer to what you want in a partner than you realize. Only you know the answer. But your home can also reveal some hints.

Feng Shui to Find True Love

Look around your home or apartment. Evaluate your furniture, the layout of the rooms, the items you display, even your wardrobe. Do they all reflect the type of partner you want? Or do they reflect the people you've been dating? Or worse, is your home or apartment not in line with your dating efforts at all?

The first step to find a soul mate is to decide exactly what you want. Your actions, then, should begin to match these traits. Make small changes in your home to begin to bring your home into alignment with your desires, and you'll create a positive cycle where your actions reflect your home, and the other way around. With all this positive energy around you, all devoted to attracting the partner of your dreams into your life, you'll start seeing results fast!

Feng Shui Relationship Guide: Be Specific About What You Want

  
  
  
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In a recent post, I offered advice on love, sharing the steps to visualize your perfect mate and the feelings being with that person will evoke in order to find true love.

But in order to do this with the best results, it's important to not only picture exactly what you want in a romantic partner, but to write it down.

To get started, begin making a list of all the traits you desire in a partner. Remember, aim high! Don't settle. Even if your dream partner seems unattainable right now, he or she won't be for long, as you work on developing your confidence and believing you will find the exact person you desire.

When you begin making a list of traits, think about different areas that are important to you. Begin with:
- Personality traits
- Physical appearance
- Geographic location/where he lives
- Career/Income level
- Kids? No Kids?
- Religious and political beliefs/leanings
- Overall disposition (humorous, upbeat, positive, pensive, etc.)

You can see this covers nearly everything that makes up a person. Soon, you will even begin to see an image of this person form in your mind.

A Vision Board in the Romance Trigram

You may want to create a vision board that includes symbols of specific traits, words, or even photos of someone you believe might represent your ideal lover.

Have fun putting together your vision board. Take time to look for the perfect photos or stickers or draw out words and items yourself if you feel artistic. Manifesting the objects to fill your vision board is the first step toward attracting them to you.

It's a good idea to keep your vision board in one of the Romance/Marriage trigrams of your home, when you lay the Feng Shui Ba Gua map over your home or apartment. As a reminder, the Romance trigram is located in the back right corner of a home, apartment, room or yard when you stand at the front door or front of the property and look in.

I wouldn't be surprised if, after coming up with a clear picture in your mind and then finding a photo that matches, you meet that exact person, or someone very close. Feng Shui and visualization, together, are just that powerful!

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