It is impossible to need excuses when the focus of life shifts to How may I serve
? Thinking of others first - reaching out to them despite how it might inconvenience you - causes you to feel joy, which is what the hungry traveler was actually seeking. This gift of feeling good (or feeling God) within comes from serving and surrendering rather than asking and demanding.
There's no room for blame in your life as long as you live with kindness. And excuses, regardless of their form, are all about blame. Blaming your past. Blaming the economy. Blaming your perceived personal flaws. Blaming God. Blaming your DNA. There's no shortage of circumstances, people, and events to blame - and there's no shortage of blame itself.
When you shift to compassion, all blame disappears. So no matter what you may want for yourself, discover how you can want it more for someone else, and then make that shift. In that contemplative moment, compassion will eradicate finger-pointing and trump excuse making. And you'll begin to think like God thinks: serving, offering, and loving freely.
The wise woman in the mountains who gave the precious stone to a stranger had no need to think about poverty or unhappiness, to hold a cynical view toward the greedy masses, or to explain the way she lived her life. Why? Because her ego was out of the picture, and love and service reigned supreme.
I've certainly found that when I remember to nurture kindness and courtesy, everything in my life seems to move toward more harmony and peace, to say nothing of how much better I feel when I'm giving rather than wanting.
I heard the Dalai Lama speak on compassion some years back, and the essence of his message contained these two points:1. Compassion is the single most important quality that humanity needs to learn.
This is the way to find happiness and health and to feel successful.2. War and violence would become extinct in one generation if, beginning at the age of five, children were taught to meditate on compassion for an hour a week for the rest of their lives.
Such is the power of a compassionate approach to life, which is truly thinking of others and living by the ancient Golden Rule.
The very second you feel yourself retreating to excuses, repeat the mantra How may I serve? Then act upon the answers you receive. You'll become aligned with the universal mind, which is always giving, and the bonus is that you'll notice the universe asking you back, "How may I serve you?
As your compassion for others flows back to you, remember the truth: You do not attract what you want; you attract what you are.
So make compassion be what you are.- Excuses Begone by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer