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How To Begin And End Each Day

  
  
  

Positive Actions

Kalu Rinpoche used to tell us to evaluate our own actions daily by making two little piles of stones each day - one for positive actions and one for negative actions. Each day you count up the positive and negatives, and then assess, evaluate, and consider what is happening in your life. I personally have found that this simple childlike teaching has brought me deeper into my own practice in the last few years. I will admit that here in the United States I am more likely to use a notebook than stones, and you may well feel the same way, but the point remains.

This little exercise can be combined with an analytical meditation that we can do while we are lying in bed at night before we fall asleep and also immediately after waking up. This practical way of examining our intentions and actions corresponds with one Atisha's mind-training slogans "Two Things To Do at the Start and Finish of Every Day."

When you wake each morning, start the day by reaffirming your intention to practice loving-kindness and compassion. Remind yourself each day to work at letting go of ego clinging, selfishness, controlling behavior, negative thoughts, possessiveness, aggression, resentment, and confusion. Resolve each day to find one small way that you can change a frozen behavior pattern, and try to do so.

When you lie down at night, reflect on the day that was. Remember your accomplishments and your frustrations - things done as well as undone. Who or what pushed your buttons? Use clear discernment and discriminating awareness to genuinely examine your behavior and the quality of your life. Recognize your familiar repetitive patterns. Assess how fruitful they actually are.

Finally, examine your day for lingering resentments and self-destructive, harmful, egocentric, or narcissistic thoughts. Find joy in awakening the noble-hearted spirit of bodhicitta. Rejoice in all the good works of both others and yourself, and share in all that good karma. It will help you find rest.

Then rest. "Done is what had to be done," as the Buddha said.

"Wait, wait," a follower once cried after the Buddha as he disappeared into the forest.

"I stopped a long time ago," Buddha replied. "When will you stop?"

- Awakening The Buddha Within by Lama Surya Das

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Comments

Stones, 2 piles, I think I am going to practice this every day and seize the grand opportunity in teaching my 2 year old daughter a wonderful and life meaningful tool! thanks again Ken for making my day turn into a meaningful life! 
Posted @ Friday, June 12, 2009 9:45 PM by Barbara
This rings true for me.  
I know I do this, and lately I seem to have lost the tread of daily peace which I experienced for so many years prior to now. 
I read your words of wisdom every day and it has been very helpful. It relaxes me me and I feel a kind of peacefulness and acceptance of my life at present. Before this current time I experienced great peace and insight daily and it was my anchor for the day. Currently I have more rocks on the negative pile, feelings about myself. This current state draws my energy out of me and I almost feel like I don't exist. This makes me do less and have less fun, just living. The positive side of rock piling definitely, if genuine, is the way to go. It creates more surprises in the day and shows me how wonderful life is. The day is much more full of energy and fun and allows good things to happen all around.
Posted @ Saturday, June 13, 2009 12:48 AM by Monika
Great reminder to calm soul, distance the ego, and create awareness. Life can seem to get in the way of living someday; so this reminder removes the impediments to clear one's consciousness. Thanks, Maralene
Posted @ Saturday, June 13, 2009 5:09 PM by Maralene
Positive, negative.... 
Right & Wrong, Like  
The Rose and the thorn... 
so Simple, so complicated... 
so Soft, so rough.... 
So Easy, just takes a while, to clean the thorns and keep the rose!!!!
Posted @ Sunday, June 14, 2009 2:09 PM by Fernanda
Great end of day routine
Posted @ Sunday, June 21, 2009 11:01 AM by Nick
This is amazing!.. I will try it. 
Thanks for sharing =)
Posted @ Tuesday, July 14, 2009 12:09 PM by Shadi Manavi
That is a great practice that allows you to remain calm and present---Thank you so much. 
 
Dale
Posted @ Monday, November 09, 2009 3:45 PM by Dale Nuce
Dale, So glad you enjoyed it.
Posted @ Tuesday, November 10, 2009 8:37 PM by Ken Lauher
I love this, it reminds me to calm in my body and to be present in the moment, 
 
Thanks so much, 
 
Dale
Posted @ Friday, November 13, 2009 6:24 PM by Dale Nuce
Very nice, practical advice that anyone can easily follow to start making an impact in their lives right away.
Posted @ Wednesday, February 10, 2010 12:35 PM by Kevin Acree
thank you for this tips. this would really help me. I'll try to practice this.
Posted @ Thursday, November 04, 2010 10:14 AM by nightshifter
Amazing...!
Posted @ Friday, February 11, 2011 11:48 AM by Yasmeen Jahan
Thanks Yasmeen. Appreciate the comment and glad you found value within the words.
Posted @ Friday, February 11, 2011 11:49 AM by Ken Lauher
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